One Date at a Time


My boyfriend and I broke up in February of this year, and I didn’t think it had been that long until someone asked me and I mistakenly said I’ve been single for about six months. Then when I did the math, I realized that I was wrong, and it was closer to 10. I honestly don’t know where the time has gone but I have recently decided to get back out there and start dating again. With that being said, I’d forgotten how hard it was getting to know someone new, and feel that I’m a bit rusty at this whole thing. I feel like a bear waking up from hibernation. And this is actually quite funny to me seeing as how I just started writing a dating advice for examiner.com. Sure I haven’t dated anyone new in over two years (wow), but what I’ve realized is that because of my ex, I now have a better idea of what I am looking for in a man, and for that I am thankful.

I will take the lessons that I learned when dating him and apply them to my current dating situation. For example, I like to drink, and my ex doesn’t. So I now know that if I date a man who doesn’t drink and who isn’t okay with me drinking, there is no need to drag things out and try to make it work because more than likely it won’t. Now don’t get me wrong, my ex and I had some really great times as well. I was thinking about how many perfect days we had together. For instance, national museum day in September has now become one of my favorite days. We went to three different museums and then he took me to lunch at one of his favorite restaurants. That experience makes me look forward to having someone to do those types of things with, and something I now look for in a man is him being open to trying new things, like going to museums and plays.

I’ve only been out on a few dates over this 10 month span, and most of them have occurred over the past month, and even though none of them have been anything more than dinner and a movie, it feels good to be getting back out there. I look at this period in my life, as a time of dating practice, and we all know that practice makes perfect lol. And for all you “How I Met Your Mother” fans out there, I know my husband is coming as fast as he can. So until he arrives, I am going to sit back and enjoy the ride, and take it one date at a time.

4 comments

    • Yeah, sometimes it’s hard to move on after a breakup. But he really did help me learn about what I’m looking for in a man, and vice versa. So in all it was a great experience, and now I’m ready to get back out there.

  1. Sooo…it’s KINDA bin 3 years for me….i need your advice lol …p.s. my date…guy…has to have drinking in common with me also…not a lush..but u kno what I mean lol

    • Yeah, I like to enjoy a drink every now and then. If I can have a drink at dinner with my parents, I really need to be able to have one with my man.

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