I’ve never noticed how much pressure is applied to singles to become a couple around the holidays until this year. Not to say that I’ve been oblivious to it, I just don’t think I’ve ever really paid that much attention to whether or not I’m single or dating someone around this time of the year. Perhaps that’s due to the fact that I was in a relationship for the past two years, and now find myself back out on the market, and closer to the big 3-0, I’ve become more aware of the emphasis that society places on people, but especially women, to be in a relationship or at least have a date for New Years Eve. However, I decided the moment that we parted ways, I would embrace my single status again, and that’s exactly what I’ve been doing.
Despite all the commercial and Christmas propaganda telling us that this is the time of the year to be in love and in a relationship, there are some benefits to being single right now. You get to celebrate how you want to without having to consult your significant other. I’ve been spending time with my family, which is nothing really new, but now I don’t have to talk anyone into coming to game night on Christmas Eve, or explain that it’s tradition for us to go the movies after Christmas dinner.
Another plus of being single during the holidays is that you get to save money because that’s one less gift you have to buy. Which in turn means you can buy those shoes and purses you’ve been eyeing for the past couple of weeks. It’s okay to spoil yourself. If you don’t, then who will?
The way I see it, I have the rest of my life to spend being someone’s wife, so I say what’s the rush? I’m determined to get to know myself, enjoy the process, and for now, be happily single. I know that everything will fall into place for me when God is ready for me to find the love of my life; the person I’ll spend every holiday with for the rest of my life. All things in God’s perfect timing, and please believe me when I say it doesn’t get any better than that. Happy holidays everyone!