February 14th has finally arrived, and it is the first time in two years that I don’t have a special someone in my life to celebrate Valentine’s Day with, but I am not bitter, or upset. Instead, I am continuing to embrace my singleness by celebrating Singles Awareness Day. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, being single is a blessing, and should be treated as such. And I want to share a list of ideas on how to make the most of this special day, which I found on Your Tango.
1. Indulge in yourself. Since Valentine’s Day is all about love, spending the day loving yourself makes perfect sense. Play hooky from work (or just leave an hour early) and do whatever you want, be it pampering yourself with a lavish mani-pedi or staying home, ordering take out and marathoning every movie your celeb crush has ever been in. After all, you have no one to please but your own darn self.
2. Find something new to love. Interested in taking up yoga? Want to learn how to dance ballet? Wish you could cook risotto? Challenge yourself to do something you haven’t done before, or seldom get to do because of your schedule.
3. Send love someone else’s way. Studies show that kindness spreads, so start an epidemic. Give Valentine’s Day cards to those close to you, like your co-workers and friends, as well as those not so close to you, like the barista who serves you your coffee. Not the Hallmark type? Volunteer locally and help those less fortunate than you. Seeing a face light up from your small gesture will fill you with love and make the world a better place. (We’re serious—check out this link about how one act of kindness generates a domino effect of goodness.)
4. Throw a party. If gift-giving won’t go over with your group, invite your friends over to celebrate being fabulous. ‘Nuff said. Our friends at Yahoo! Shine have a great V-Day party planning guide for you, covering everything from color schemes to cocktails.
5. Figure out what you want out of love. We know, we know, this whole post is about NOT being romantic. But since our mission is to help people live their best love lives, we would be remiss in not telling you that—even if you don’t want to right now or don’t believe it will ever happen—everyone, including you, can fall in love. And it usually happens when you least expect it. So take some time to write down a few love goals. Whether you want to remain single for ten more years or want to start dating this month, the clarity of knowing what you want makes it that much easier to get there.
I think these are all great ideas, but I saved the best for last. Most of us walk around proclaiming that we want a love the like epic kind we see in movies, but do we really know what it takes to have a successful relationship? Knowing what you want out of love will save you a lot of time and heartache. Something equally important is knowing how to give love, and love that person even when you don’t want too. So today I dare you to look yourself in the mirror, and ask yourself what exactly is that you want out of love, and what are you willing to do to maintain the love that you’ve worked so hard to find.
As always, this is from my heart to yours. Happy Singles Awareness Day!