A couple of weeks ago, I attended the wedding of one of my dearest friends, who I’ve known since college. The ceremony was small and intimate, and the reception was beautiful as well as elegant. We partied on the rooftop overlooking the ocean and even though it had rained most of the day, the sky had cleared up allowing us to enjoy the rest of our evening. Now on to the reason for this post lol. When it came time for the bride to toss her bouquet into the sea of women anxiously awaiting to catch it, they’d just begun to serve dessert and I was eating a rather tasty slice of carrot cake. An older couple I’d made with friends with earlier, tried to take my cake away from me as they shoved me into the masses with the rest of the single women. At that moment, all I could think about was “Why do I have to try to catch the bouquet when I know I’d get more pleasure out of eating my cake?” And who came up with this tradition of making women clobber each other in hopes that catching a bunch of flowers will end their season of singleness and be the next one to get married??? I was sure it was a man who came of with this idea, and decided to google it.
The tradition first originated in medieval Europe, but it wasn’t always the bouquet that women caught. After the ceremony, they would chase the bride and rip pieces of her dress, which was thought to bring them good luck. But as dresses became more expensive, the women began to keep their wedding dresses to pass down to their daughters. Seeing as how flowers would not keep long, and represented fertility, they started throwing the bouquets instead of ripping the bride’s dress to pieces. And the way we attack one another, I’d say it’s the spirit of all the brides whose dresses were ripped, finally getting their revenge lol.
Going against tradition is not something I do often, but in the case of throwing flowers at the single women at my reception is a tradition I can do without. No need to make them further compete against one another to find a man. Instead, I will just let them eat their cake in peace, because after all, that’s what I would have done had I been given the option. Please note this is by no means a diss towards my friend’s beautiful wedding, and was truly honored to be a part of their special day. It’s just a single woman’s rant about wanting to have her cake and eat it too. 🙂