Why can’t we be friends?


Long gone are the days of playing in the sandbox with other kids your age or inviting friends to a sleepover just becasue that what you did when you were a kid. But now you’re an adult, so you try to find other adults to do grown up activities with, but that is often easier said than done. Have you ever found yourself in a new city where you barely knew anyone and now you have to start all over so to speak, by making new friends. And you think to yourself, you have ample experience in this department. You’ve been alive for 30 years, you have making new friends down packed, or do you?

Even in the day and age of technology, where you can have thousands of Facebook friends and Twitter followers, how many of those people can you really call up on a Friday night and say hey, let’s meet up for happy hour at that place we both like so much??? One or two, yeah, that’s what I thought. So, how does one make new friends in a new town? I did some research, i.e. googled, the topic and numerous articles came up, which made me feel good that I wasn’t the only person to ever ponder such a thing and here is what I discovered

1) Network offline: Meet up.com is a great way to meet other indviduals who have similar interest as you. They open host events in public places and it’s also a great way to network.

2) Take a fitness or dance class: Who isn’t hungry after getting their workout or groove on? After you’ve worked up a sweat, invite one of your classmates out to get a drink to cool off.

3) Make the first move: When you are standing in line at the grocery store and you see someone who seems like they may be nice, don’t be shy, say hello. Comment on one of the many magazines there for you  to look through while waiting to check out, gossiping about stars is always a great conversation starter.

4) Smile, you never know whose watching: A smile is the unversial language of friendliness. If someone finds your approachable, then they are more than likley to start a converstaion with you.

5) Let your gaurd down: We’ve all been hurt, but you can’t hold that against people you’ve never even met. So let go of the past, through caution to the wind, and invite someone out for coffee once in a while.

Although I was blessed to be raised with my best friend, my sister, we are now livng in different cities, in different states, and I have to make a new circle of friends. No person is an island, and we are not meant to go through life alone. You only get one life, and no matter how long you live, for some, it’s never enough. So I say, make the most of the time you have and spend it with people who make you laugh, will hold you when you cry and offer to toliet paper your ex’s house even at the ripe old age of 30, because that’s what friends are for.

6 comments

  1. When I first moved to Tampa from New York, I didn’t have a job or friends. When you work, it’s easier to meet people at the workplace and or school but outside of that, it’s hard. I can spark a conversation with just about anybody but when it comes to exchanging numbers so you can get together later, that’s the awkward part. I’d probably wait till I join a church and get active and eventually you’d meet people and get involved in the church outings and events.

    • Funny you should mention that, joining a church was actually one of the suggestions in one of the articles I read. 🙂

  2. Ariel, as we get older it does become harder to make new friends. It takes time especially when we are starting a new chapter of our lives. This was a good reminder to be patient, smile, and get out of the house. 🙂

    • You are so right Lorri! Hopefully I’ll get to meet up with some of the Goaldiggers in a couple of weeks, but until then, I’ll do my best to meet other people outside of Facebook lol.

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